Tuesday, January 19, 2021

Meditation Part 2


Meditation.
  Part two.  After attending a few Yoga Nidra classes over 5 years ago now, I started meditating on my own.  Guided meditations.  Laying flat on my back.  So used to being busy doing one thing after another, I found it difficult to remain motionless and awake in the beginning.  I was just so used to constantly ‘doing’ that ‘non-doing’ was very painful.  It seemed like such a waste of time.  I still kept at it, not really knowing what I was supposed to be accomplishing.  The nothingness behind it was lost to me as I kept thinking about it as something that I was actively pursuing.  After a while, if anything, I just began finding it relaxing.  It also seemed to help with my exercise recovery so I just went with it.  Listening to the audio instructions guiding me through.  Immobilized, eyes closed, simply staring into the darkness.  Ever so slowly, I felt myself beginning to open.  Becoming more comfortable with simply being.  Experiencing brief feelings of leaving my body.  Disappearing.  Peacefully floating.  It sounds weird and it’s difficult to explain, but I began feeling this powerful yet calm positive energy embracing me.  Meditation can be so many different things.  So very personal.  The original prayer.  Like in endurance sports such as cycling, it takes an enormous amount of time and practice before you begin noticing the positive effects.  The paradox being that it shouldn’t be done as a means to an end.  It should simply be done because it’s who we are.  Meditation was slowly becoming the yin to my cycling yang.  Improving my recovery.  Improving my riding.  Not in terms of numbers, but in terms of the depth.  We think of cycling in terms of legs, heart and lungs.  But in reality, our brains are what tie the whole experience together.

Wednesday, January 13, 2021

Meditation Part 1






Meditation.  Part one.  I’ve had a certain fascination with meditation for a long while now.  Intrigued by the willpower and discipline required, I first thought of it as an exercise of mind over matter.  Like in a bike race, your tired legs are hurting and telling you to stop but you stubbornly push through it chasing the result.  Like that, but the opposite.  Sitting cross legged, your restless body is hurting and telling you to move but you stubbornly push through it and stay still.  This initial understanding wasn’t enough to get me to practice.  It just seemed to require too much effort and I still wasn’t sure about the why even if I admired those who had the willpower to do it.  I was in awe of their ability to focus.  When I trained to race, my favorite rides were solo long steady distance outings.  They were simple.  They felt natural to me.  No complicated timed efforts.  Just ride.  And these rides seemed to benefit my mind as much as my legs and body.  Unknowingly at the time, they were my first form of meditation.  An introverted outdoorsman at heart, my solo rides have become a necessity for me instead of simply something to do responsibly during this pandemic.  They have become my lifeline.  My ritual.  My practice.  Temps hovered around - 5 Celsius on this cloudy January forenoon as I headed out into the woods on my fat bike.  Snow covered trails.  Easy like Sunday morning.   As I settle into my pace, I notice how very comfortable I have become alone in the woods.  It just feels like coming home.  One with nature.  One with existence.  Out of the self.  Into the whole.  Wandering for over 3 hours.  Forest tea.  A gluten-free date square.  My absolute favorite active meditation.  And zero willpower required.  Maybe meditation isn’t difficult after all?  Maybe it’s a matter of finding a form of meditation that suits us?

Friday, January 8, 2021

Uninvested




2021. A new year. A time when we tend to look back. A time when we also tend to look forward and set new goals in an attempt to fix what we don’t like. I’m not really into resolutions. These last few years, I tend to analyze my life regularly as I go. If I don’t like something, I make an effort to change it then and there, instead of waiting for year end. Living slower, I have more time for observation and self-examination. More time to catch myself resisting what is. More time to remind myself to go with the flow instead of fighting it. Too much planning seems to make me miss too many present moments. Being fully alive includes a certain spontaneity. Welcoming what is like I had chosen it. Trusting. Here. Now. As much as so many people are happy to see it end, 2020 was a good year for me personally. Despite Covid or maybe because of it? I was lucky in that we live in an area with relatively low case numbers and our family income was not affected. We’re pandemic privileged in that sense. And there’s also bikes. I’d have to go back to my childhood to remember a time when I enjoyed riding as much as I did this past year. It wasn’t about the numbers. It was simply about the deep feelings of appreciation and gratification that emanated from each and every pedal stroke. Or maybe I should call it pedal stoke? Instead of resolutions, I have but one intention. I long to be uninvested. Univested in your opinion of me. Univested in being right. Univested in proving my worth. Uninvested in trying to convince you to think like I do. Uninvested in every single thing outside of my own self. Uninvested in everything outside of my heart. Invested in being more uninvested. I have come to realize that the only thing that I have the power to change is my own self. Therefore, being invested in anything else is simply foolish. How invested are you in changing your own self in 2021?

Friday, January 1, 2021

2021

 


 

What’s this really all about?  What’s the point?  As this year comes to an end, I ponder.  I’ve been going through this existential crisis of sorts for a few years now.  Mid life.  A coming of age.  Around me, the crowds all seem to be chasing success, fame, power and riches.  Go big or go home.  All that I want to do really is go deep and stay home.  I have mostly always felt like an outsider, like I was playing this character in someone else’s story.  Escorted by the masses.  Following the rules.  Doing what I was told.  Conforming.  All the while, still waiting for the “living happily ever after” part like they promised.  Maybe “living happily ever after” isn’t just about our titles, accomplishments and stuff?  Maybe it’s much more?  My schooling taught me how to earn a living, but it hadn’t taught me how to cultivate a happy life.  Fat biking along this frozen riverfront as the sun sets, a certain understanding begins to surface inside of me like it does so very often when I’m out on my bike.  Maybe happiness isn’t something that we can learn or achieve with our mind?  Maybe happiness is something that we can only feel by opening our heart?  Maybe happiness is what appears when our heart becomes the master and our mind its servant instead of the other way around?  As 2020 comes to a close, may your inner journey towards happiness be at the top of your priority list.  Follow your heart.  Let it open.  It knows.  Happy New Year friends !!

Monday, December 21, 2020

Winter solstice





Winter solstice.  Earth’s longest meditation of the year.  Eyes closed.  This lingering night.  Inviting us to go deeper.  Inspiring us to find truth in our own darkness.  Asking us to stop and ponder life’s mysteries.  Summoning us to reacquaint our self with our self.  This energetic shift.  This underlying voiceless natural readjustment as the light finally starts overtaking the darkness.  Sun’s rebirth.  The external sun that shines on our planet earth.  And the internal sun that shines within each and every one of us.  Can you feel it?  There’s something about riding this time of the year.  The first day of winter.  Fat bike season.  So fresh.  So much hope.  So much promise.  Akin to our own rebirth.  Bringing us back to who we were when we first came into this world.  Back to our authentic self.  Pure.  Knowing.  Trusting.  Happy.  No expectations.  Wholly present in this moment.  One.  One with existence.  One with this darkest night.  Standing at this intersection between this dark ending and this bright beginning, have you noticed the emerging light shining on the new you?  Happy winter solstice everyone ! 

 

Thursday, December 17, 2020

Trust me



Who can we trust?  Trust seems so difficult to earn these days.  Living on guard, afraid of being ripped off.  Protecting and safeguarding our stuff and reputation.  Fearful of being taken advantage of.  In a society that prioritizes profit, authentic human relationships have become quite rare.  Almost everyone is basically just doing business, constantly on edge, watching everyone else’s next move.  People politely using people for personal gain.  We just can’t trust anyone anymore.  No wonder anxiety disorders are currently at epidemic levels.  All humans innately come with trust.  It isn’t something that we learn.  We’re all born trusting.  So the real question is how can we reclaim this trust?  Trusting that we are enough.  Trusting that we are exactly how and where we need to be in this moment.  Trusting that everything that we require is already inside of us.  Society teaches us doubt.  And this is what slowly robs of us of our built-in trust.  Doubt means no.  Trust means yes.  Doubt means fear.  Trust means love.  Doubt means death.  Trust means life.  Doubt means ego.  Trust means soul.  Doubt means thought.  Trust means feel.  Who can we trust?  The most important person is our own self.  It all begins with self-trust.  Hope.  Confidence.  Liberation.  Trust me.  

 

Tuesday, December 8, 2020

Be your own light




December.  The very last month.  The ill-lit season.  The longest night.  Nature’s down time.  The natural world decelerating after this long year.  Somnolent and tired.  Tired of playing these games.  Tired of contemplating every single possible scenario just in case.  Tired of trying to fit into this mold.  Tired of chasing someone else’s dream.  Tired of pretending to be who they want me to be.  Tired of living in this fear.  Tired of clinging to the old.  So many promises.  So few fulfillments.  I am still having a very hard time easing the pace even if I too am strongly feeling the accumulated fatigue from these last 12 months.  Pressing on.  Going through these motions on auto-pilot.  Attempting to distract this racing mind using outer means.  Resisting, even if deep down I understand that this inner stillness is necessary.  To get rid of the old.  To make room for the new.  The old that is no more.  Gone.  Expired.  Dead.  I still tend to hold onto it.  It’s all I know.  It’s familiar.  The new still completely unknown.  Undecided.  Pending.  Terrifying.  I have no idea what I’ll get.  All I can do is trust.  Trust that the new is exactly what I need, even if my mind doesn’t agree.  Trust that it will all work its way out in the end.   Trust in myself.  In this darkest season, be your own light.  2021 is but a few weeks away.  How open are you to what new it will bring?

Wednesday, November 25, 2020

These eyes



Our entire existence in a single glance.  These eyes.  Speaking so much louder than these words.  All there.  In plain sight.  Our entire story.  In this faces covered by masks era of our human history, our eyes have become so much more pronounced.  Mirrors.  Reflecting back to us who and what we are.  Connecting us.  Teaching us so very much, even more than all of the books.  These eyes.  Always revealing the truth.  Giving us all the answers.  It’s all there.  These windows to our souls.  All we need to do is open our eyes.  With the shorter days this time of the year, my eyes are having a hard time seeing through this darkness.  The ghastly parts of me resurfacing after being dormant all summer.  This isn’t about negativity.  It’s about honesty and humanity.  This season of extended darkness seems to be bringing up the masked darkness inside of me.  These eyes.  Wide open.  Recklessly looking for the light.  This dense heaviness, it can’t be chased away.  There’s nothing to do but look at it straight in the eyes.  To sit down with it in this dim silence.  To feel what it is asking to be felt.  Unafraid.  In this stillness, I begin to notice the stars amidst this lingering night.  Hope.  The real kind.  Abiding hope that can only be born from darkness.  Wait.  Watch.  Feel.  Surrender.  Soon, this frozen land will be covered in a blanket of snow.  Maybe that’s why snow is white?  To brighten things up for these eyes during this dark season.

 

Monday, November 23, 2020

Our Addictions

The cravings just seem to creep up on me.  An insatiable deep hunger.  All I can think of is my next dopamine hit.  This addiction.  My survival mechanism.  

Bikes have always been a huge deal for me for as long as I can remember.  From playing with my Evel Knievel action figure and toy bike to going on rides with my dad as a young boy, there’s just something magical about the mechanical physics of balancing a man-made machine on two wheels at speed.  Pure freedom.  Growing up, me and my friends literally lived on our bikes.  Jumping curbs and sidewalks.  Building ramps.  Endlessly exploring.  Riding into the sunset night after night.  I had a great childhood, good friends and a loving family.  But I also experienced certain consequential losses along the way.  Traumas that I didn’t have the tools to properly deal with at the time. 

Living in this traumatized world.  A world that doesn’t foster grieving and emotional healing.  An overly busy world, consumed with consumerism and the next big thing.  A world that doesn’t have time for what it sees as all this emotional trauma bullshit.  Living in such a world, all I knew how to do was what it taught me.  Stuff it all in.  Stiffen my upper lip.  Suck it up.  Put up a stoic front.  Repress.  Riding and racing bikes gave me the perfect environment to practice suppressing my emotional pain.  I was even validated and idolized for it.  The better I became at muffling and enduring pain on the bike, the more people paid attention to me.  I felt validated, like I was winning the battle.  Endurance sports are great like that.  Our bodies are constantly rating our pain.  Physical pain always rates higher than underlying emotional pain.  For this reason, “hurting our self” on a bike seems to alleviate the emotional pain beneath it by changing our focus.  The problem is that it’s only a Band-Aid, a temporary release mechanism.  It doesn’t fix the problem at the source.  It hushes the flames, but it never extinguishes the fire.


For me personally, everything literally came crashing down in July of 2016 during a local Tuesday night mountain bike race.  On the last lap, my tired hand slipped off the bar on a rooty downhill.  There was no way to save it.  I tried to roll as I hit the ground.  My helmet took the brunt of the impact.  Hitting my head that day was the beginning of hitting my rock bottom.  Concussed, I couldn’t ride anymore.  Hell, I couldn’t really do anything anymore.  Every single thing took so much energy and effort.  I lived in a constant fog.  The only time that I felt somewhat normal was when I was asleep.  Depressed and constantly anxious, I was a mess.  My broken brain made me feel like I was no longer part of this living dimension.  Alone in this darkness.  The bike racer pedestal that I once proudly stood on had crumbled and I no longer had a place to stand.  Emotionally, my concussion felt like the spillage of my entire life baggage.  The sealed container holding all of my past trauma violently smashed open by the impact of my fall, all of its contents scattered in a huge mess.  I could no longer deny it like I had done for so long.  Everything was all there before, neatly organized to ensure my survival.  Now it was all exposed, disorganized and raw.  The task of putting everything back in the container like it was before just wasn’t possible.  There was no going back.  All I could do was get really honest with myself.  Completely overwhelmed.  I didn’t know how and where to begin.

 

I started seeing a new psychologist.  I did yoga.  I meditated.  I read books that spoke to my soul.  And I slowly started riding again.  My first rides were very slow and short.  And still aggravated my symptoms.  I was but a tiny speck of my former self.  Completely deflated, the light at the end of the long tunnel was very dim.  Then, every once in a while, I started having better days.  Days when I was able to ride a little longer.  I was also finally revisiting the traumatic events of my past in psychotherapy, slowly allowing myself to feel what I couldn’t feel at the time.  I cried a whole lot.  And the more that I got better at feeling, the more that I started feeling better.  No shortcuts.  Time doesn’t heal all wounds.  This stuff doesn’t just go away by itself.  To get to the other side, I had to do the work.  Over 4 years later, I am feeling much better.  I still get that drunk, dizzy, disconnected feeling every once in a while but now I try to honour it, as a reminder of what I’ve been through and how far I’ve come.  I’m still seeing a psychologist.  I’m still healing.  Emotionally, I feel better than since I can remember.  And that is what motivates me to continue to sit with my discomfort instead of run away from it.  The process is and will always be ongoing.  It’s my life’s work.  The real work that makes me whole.

 

We’re all traumatized.  Damaged in some way.  It’s simply a side effect of living.  For me, as my traumas accumulated, they began to angrily drive me.  Infiltrating my every thought and action.  Lodging themselves into every single one of my cells.  Deep down, unconsciously, I hated myself because of what had happened to me.  As if I should have been able to prevent it.  This traumatized society.  A society that prizes pushing beyond our limits, idolizes strength and speed while viewing rest, showing emotion and grief as weakness.  Young and impressionable, that’s what I had learned.  Hard wired for survival, my addictions are simply the best solutions that my mind could come up with at the time in order to keep me alive.  Without them, I wouldn’t have made it.  Some levitate towards drugs, work, sex or shopping in an attempt to fill their void.  I ride bikes.  Why didn’t I end up in the same situation as the drug addicted homeless beggar?  I simply either suffered less trauma or I had more help and support dealing with and healing from my trauma.  In other words, I just got lucky.  In this sense, our addictions are actually purposeful.  Even if they are mostly never sustainable.

 

I‘m still madly in love with the bike even if this fondness has been evolving in a different direction lately.  Riding is still my lifeline, my salvation.  But now, it’s on my own terms.  At my own pace.  Mostly alone.  No expectations or agenda.  Simply exploring this world that we are one with.  An undying solitude seeker at heart.  My racing days are over.  I’m not saying bike racing is all bad.  It definitely has its place in cycling and it did serve its purpose, even if I no longer see it as the best thing about our sport.  For me personally, I can’t seem to race “just for fun”.  The competitive aspect seems to strip too much from my experience.  In its purest form, riding a bicycle is a very personal experience.  We get out of it what we put into it.  For me, riding makes me a better husband.  It makes me a better father.  It makes me a better friend.  It makes me a better human. 

 

Our addictions, our teachers.  Showing us what needs attention and healing.  Maybe we never completely heal from our addictions?  Maybe all we can do is stop hurting ourselves by taming them?  

Tuesday, November 17, 2020

Empty





Mid November.  After the leaves.  Before the snow.  These bare trees.  Earth’s arms.  Reaching up towards the sky.  Empty branches.  Empty hands.  Seemingly idle, but in reality actively outstretching up to the heavens.  The time of the year where the forest is most transparent.  I ride out to the pavilion, sit for a bit, then continue my journey through our city parks.  The temp hovers just above freezing but the warm sun and calm winds make it feel warmer.  Pedaling through this cool calmness feels very comforting.  If I’m honest, I have been feeling my perspective towards winter changing these last few weeks.  My body and mind seem to unconsciously be getting ready for it.  An inherent acclimatization of sorts.  Rolling through Centennial Park, I notice the occasional falling leaf slowly drifting, dancing in the breeze as it slowly makes its way to the ground.  Like our thoughts that just randomly appear.  Drifting and dancing before eventually disappearing.  Going back home to where all the other thoughts live.  Back to where they came from.  Back into the totality of existence.  Back to where they rebecome an undistinguishably part of the whole.  These trees have so much to teach us.  They don’t resist the cold and darkness.  They open up to it.  Unafraid, they unapologetically disrobe.  Completely giving in.  Perfectly naked.  Stripping themselves of their summer baggage.  Showing us how, even in the darkest season of the year, things become much clearer when we finally let go of what we thought we needed to hold onto.  Winter’s coming.  How empty are your hands?

Friday, November 13, 2020

Rebellious





Folded between these bed sheets, my legs are impatient.  They need to move.  They need to unfold.  Tossing and turning, my eyes slowly begin to open.  Stretching in bed as I wake, I can already feel the expansion happening in my lower extremities.  It spreads quickly.  To my heart.  To my mind.  To every single cell in my body.  Ride day mornings have a very sincere feel to them.  So much potentiality.  This unseasonably mild November weather certainly also contributing to my heightened stoke level.  In it’s purest form, riding a bicycle is a very personal act.  Uncontaminated freedom.  Honest.  Out there, exposed to the elements, there is nowhere to hide.  On my own terms.  I don’t want to rush it.  Unorganized.  No conditions.  No agenda.  I never need external motivation to get out and ride.  When I trained to race, each ride had a specific purpose.  Base mileage, intervals, strength, power.  I had specific set goals and objectives and the whole reason was to work towards them.  In so many ways it made my life very simple.  Just follow the prescribed training plan.  No thinking.  Just doing.  Today, I don’t really have any ride goals or objectives.  I’m not getting ready for anything except life itself.  Being.  Pedaling through this world that we are all an integral part of.  No more me against them.  It’s all just us.  One.  Riding regularly literally changes everything in my life.  I’m a better husband.  I’m a better father.  I’m a better employee.  I’m a better friend.  I’m a better writer.  I’m a better human.  Every single thing is enhanced when I ride.  Out of the city.  Into the valley.  My feet dancing on these pedals.  The covered bridge.  Ancient foothill churches.  Morning fog lifting.  Empty fields.  Full heart.  Being on my bike is when I feel most like my true self.  Uninhibited.  Rebellious.  In a society that wants us all to be the same, riding my bike is my way of creatively being unique.